Thursday, July 26, 2007

Striking a Balance!!

Each new step we take, we need to leave one behind and thats the path of progress. If I look back now, there are so many instances in life, whr I was stuck between the resistance to leave my comfort zone and the thrill of trying something new. When we shift houses, we feel happy that we are moving to our own house, but at the same time fidget about having to leave the frnds here and start makng frnds again.

Leaving the school and joining the college and then leaving the college for an uninversity, leaving that also for a job and changing jobs, its always a comparision between wat we have in future and wat we are forgoing for that and surprisingly always the former wins :P or its meant to be like that.

Well, before you start wondering about wat all this is for, let me come to the point. I was actually thinking about the feelng of gettng married to someone in a couple of weeks. One of my close frnds is gettng married in a couple of weeks. An arranged marrg, whr she didnt know the person until a day before and once its settled, hez everythng for her.Its hardly been a week since its settled and they already know half of wat the other person is like and she cant help but speak about how he is how he behaves, how he talks, how humorous he is and.. shhhhh (am not lettng out all secrets :P)

Its amazing how emotions build up, all it takes is acceptance. The moment we know we have met the better half and the decision is taken, all the future plans are updated instantaneously to include him or her in that. It keeps us wondering how all this happened but still fills our heart with joy. In between all this, the confusion remains, well knowing that we are going to choose the marriage. Do we need to part the family for this? do we have to start all over again with a stranger and leave the world you have known for 25 odd years? Is he capable of understanding me? Will I be happy with him at the same time, will he be happy with me?
And the toughest phase starts, where one doesnt know whether to feel happy for the marrg or sorry for having to leave parents and the only known world till now.

After all, no change is easy, whether its for good or for bad. And i have all through my life learnt that there is normal resistance to any change in life. But, I feel the people love change and thats wat they work for. The eagerness to try something new and move ahead always outperforms the resistance we have for change and thats how life moves on.
So, my dear friend, when you well know what you are going to choose, thrz no use wasting your time on the confusion any more. Go ahead and live your life to the fullest. :)

5 comments:

Chinni said...

sure guruji.. as you say!! ;)

Aemi said...

HI Sandhya...
Even i am in same boat on your thinking...:-) but still yar it always remains question will our life partner understand us as i want him to know us??? Anyway nice one

Anonymous said...

For things like love ... life etc .. u cant understand by just analysing or readng othez .. get into it to know wat it really is .. its the joy of having someone near to heart that makes u a child again ..
Not all things are solved by brain .. for studz ..its always a puzzle.

Anonymous said...

Hi Sandhya,

Many Thanks for your expressive words towards my feelings.........

Mrunalini said...

We basically hate uncertainty in terms of expectations- the reason we detest change. We love risk taking - it makes life more adventurous - the reason we love change. So as a shrewd investor trading with the underlying instrument as life, u wanna maximize the return while minimizing the risk - the reason you embrace change when you believe that the beta would be greater than 1 ( you observe the historical trend for this and do some market research)
To put things in perspective in case of getting married,
return - you expect the life to be better than what it was when you were with you parents for reasons that dont need explanation
risk - you are getting into unfamiliar territory
beta - the market research is done by the parents while the historical trend in india has moved in favour of arranged marriages
so is the case with every other instance related to 'change' :)

( I was afraid that the comment might be longer than post , but thankfully it isnt :D )