Each new step we take, we need to leave one behind and thats the path of progress. If I look back now, there are so many instances in life, whr I was stuck between the resistance to leave my comfort zone and the thrill of trying something new. When we shift houses, we feel happy that we are moving to our own house, but at the same time fidget about having to leave the frnds here and start makng frnds again.
Leaving the school and joining the college and then leaving the college for an uninversity, leaving that also for a job and changing jobs, its always a comparision between wat we have in future and wat we are forgoing for that and surprisingly always the former wins :P or its meant to be like that.
Well, before you start wondering about wat all this is for, let me come to the point. I was actually thinking about the feelng of gettng married to someone in a couple of weeks. One of my close frnds is gettng married in a couple of weeks. An arranged marrg, whr she didnt know the person until a day before and once its settled, hez everythng for her.Its hardly been a week since its settled and they already know half of wat the other person is like and she cant help but speak about how he is how he behaves, how he talks, how humorous he is and.. shhhhh (am not lettng out all secrets :P)
Its amazing how emotions build up, all it takes is acceptance. The moment we know we have met the better half and the decision is taken, all the future plans are updated instantaneously to include him or her in that. It keeps us wondering how all this happened but still fills our heart with joy. In between all this, the confusion remains, well knowing that we are going to choose the marriage. Do we need to part the family for this? do we have to start all over again with a stranger and leave the world you have known for 25 odd years? Is he capable of understanding me? Will I be happy with him at the same time, will he be happy with me?
And the toughest phase starts, where one doesnt know whether to feel happy for the marrg or sorry for having to leave parents and the only known world till now.
After all, no change is easy, whether its for good or for bad. And i have all through my life learnt that there is normal resistance to any change in life. But, I feel the people love change and thats wat they work for. The eagerness to try something new and move ahead always outperforms the resistance we have for change and thats how life moves on.
So, my dear friend, when you well know what you are going to choose, thrz no use wasting your time on the confusion any more. Go ahead and live your life to the fullest. :)
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Sivaji, The Boss
As a child, I have heard others saying that they would go to US or some foreign country, earn a lot and get all the money back to India and help the poor here. Frankly, I was also fascinated by the idea. Going abroad, having a chance to tour the world and then getting back to our own motherland to serve the unprivileged, sounds very satisfying in both materialistic way as well philanthropic way. Doesn’t it sound like an ideal way to lead a life? But, as time went on, a lot of things changed, circumstances changed and lot of other things to bother about, and these innocent thoughts were lost in the run for good education, job, life and what not.
But these thoughts were once again revisited with a lil more wisdom while I was watching Sivaji movie the other day with a couple of frnds. With the huge following Rajni has got, I just started wondering the impact it would have on his fans, children and other viewers. Would it create more socially responsible people? Would it ignite the fire to do something to the society we live in? or Will it just remain as just another fascinating movie which created a lot of buzz at the box office?
Its really amazing to note that a lot of movies these days are screened on social issues and even more pleasing to note that the movies now do not stop at showing the injustice happening in the society but also figure out a way to deal with it. The ways shown may be very unrealistic, but they at least lead the people in the direction of solution. We have heard of children reacting to lage raho munna bhai where the hero fights injustice by non-violent ways and reiterates through various examples that patience can win the worst of the people. To mention in the same league, is the chiranjeevi movie Stalin, where the hero tries an innovative method of helping 3 people in need and as a sign of gratitude asking them to help 3 other people in return. These type of movies, especially when done by one of our favorite actors, do make us think that life is not about running all day for ourselves. They do make us feel responsible for the society and at the same time a little considerate about the problems others are facing.
Now considering the recent movie Sivaji on the same angle, three major problems in the society are highlighted in this: Endless Government rules and regulations, Corruption and Black Money. Well, one should admit that the way these were put across were amazing not to mention the style and performance of Rajni. This would defntly make a huge success. But was just afraid of one thing. I hope it doesn’t drive home a point its extremely difficult to setup charitable operations in India.
Agreed there are numerous rules and regulations followed by the government to keep a tab on wats going on with the trusts here. This may look a little disheartening for a person who is setting it up. But the reason behind such rules could be that the govt want to make sure that these are not used for wrong reasons. It has to make sure that a medical college should send out doctors of acceptable quality, it has to make sure that the old age homes built should treat the old people fairly, it’s the govts responsibility to make sure that a hospital setup isn’t misleading the people or not taking advantage of them. So, before someone concludes on the government policies, think a lil while on why they were in place at first place.
With corruption, therez frankly very little solution that has been offered so far, a lot of movies have attempted to show a solution to this problem, but almost all use violence or huge public support to deal with it. Both of which aren’t very reachable to normal public ( at least in my opinion). But one needs to appreciate the way suggested to deal with black money, which one should watch the movie to get the feel of it. Hope this gives the government and the public, a slight push in using the technology to minimize the problems of the society.
Thanks for the movie, for making people think about these issues. And, thanks for Rajnis fans for making me watch it, so that I can add yet another post here :P
But these thoughts were once again revisited with a lil more wisdom while I was watching Sivaji movie the other day with a couple of frnds. With the huge following Rajni has got, I just started wondering the impact it would have on his fans, children and other viewers. Would it create more socially responsible people? Would it ignite the fire to do something to the society we live in? or Will it just remain as just another fascinating movie which created a lot of buzz at the box office?
Its really amazing to note that a lot of movies these days are screened on social issues and even more pleasing to note that the movies now do not stop at showing the injustice happening in the society but also figure out a way to deal with it. The ways shown may be very unrealistic, but they at least lead the people in the direction of solution. We have heard of children reacting to lage raho munna bhai where the hero fights injustice by non-violent ways and reiterates through various examples that patience can win the worst of the people. To mention in the same league, is the chiranjeevi movie Stalin, where the hero tries an innovative method of helping 3 people in need and as a sign of gratitude asking them to help 3 other people in return. These type of movies, especially when done by one of our favorite actors, do make us think that life is not about running all day for ourselves. They do make us feel responsible for the society and at the same time a little considerate about the problems others are facing.
Now considering the recent movie Sivaji on the same angle, three major problems in the society are highlighted in this: Endless Government rules and regulations, Corruption and Black Money. Well, one should admit that the way these were put across were amazing not to mention the style and performance of Rajni. This would defntly make a huge success. But was just afraid of one thing. I hope it doesn’t drive home a point its extremely difficult to setup charitable operations in India.
Agreed there are numerous rules and regulations followed by the government to keep a tab on wats going on with the trusts here. This may look a little disheartening for a person who is setting it up. But the reason behind such rules could be that the govt want to make sure that these are not used for wrong reasons. It has to make sure that a medical college should send out doctors of acceptable quality, it has to make sure that the old age homes built should treat the old people fairly, it’s the govts responsibility to make sure that a hospital setup isn’t misleading the people or not taking advantage of them. So, before someone concludes on the government policies, think a lil while on why they were in place at first place.
With corruption, therez frankly very little solution that has been offered so far, a lot of movies have attempted to show a solution to this problem, but almost all use violence or huge public support to deal with it. Both of which aren’t very reachable to normal public ( at least in my opinion). But one needs to appreciate the way suggested to deal with black money, which one should watch the movie to get the feel of it. Hope this gives the government and the public, a slight push in using the technology to minimize the problems of the society.
Thanks for the movie, for making people think about these issues. And, thanks for Rajnis fans for making me watch it, so that I can add yet another post here :P
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Life is defntly a race, but winning alone isn't its goal!!
Two years of decission making..
atleast an year wondering..
and a couple of months discussing..
whether finance is a right line for me to choose!!
Lots of confusion all through.. even if its fin, wat in fin, variety of profiles being offered, wat to choose among them? I could eliminate a couple of them with great difficulty, not that they r boring, but that i may not be good at it :P
Finally, i freeze my decission and promise not to look back.Decide to take up the job i wld love to try out(which just came in my way:D), without giving importance to location, package and not even parents apprehensions. All these, just to start the journey all alone, to find myself lost in a vast flow of people from all sides. Run all around to spot a decent place to live in, keep shuttling to office and home, hoping that some day, i wld work on somethng remotely related to the dream job i have imagined. well, doesn't it sound usual?
While i was preoccupied by all these thoughts and finished complaining abt it to every possible frnd of mine, was sitting completely idle to think wat i was expecting. As usual, when we hav nothing much to do, we tend to think philosophically and probably thats wat i am upto now :P
If at all I am good, i must be able to make a difference no matter wat work is given to me( fine, its another matter that thrz no work at all as of now :P) .
Why do we keep praying or expecting things which would make us busier than wat we are now, why do we always want to do "the most difficult job" (in our perspective atleast), why struggle hard to get a job which would just make the struggle harder? And after achieveing all this, keep wondering y we dont have time for ourselves and if this is wat we live for and is that all life has for us?
If these thoughts do stop us at some point of time, suddenly the competitive spirit in us wakes up and forces us to push all these thoughts aside, bcoz, to win in life,we need to achieve wat we want to and hence the struggle for these is must for us to be happy. Atleast as now, we dont know wats gonna come true. But defntly we cant sit back and keep thinking, for, this is not going to take us anywhr.
So, whether we think about all this or not, we eventually do get trapped in this daily run for success and finally may succeed with out knowing whether, thats wat we wanted at the first place!!
atleast an year wondering..
and a couple of months discussing..
whether finance is a right line for me to choose!!
Lots of confusion all through.. even if its fin, wat in fin, variety of profiles being offered, wat to choose among them? I could eliminate a couple of them with great difficulty, not that they r boring, but that i may not be good at it :P
Finally, i freeze my decission and promise not to look back.Decide to take up the job i wld love to try out(which just came in my way:D), without giving importance to location, package and not even parents apprehensions. All these, just to start the journey all alone, to find myself lost in a vast flow of people from all sides. Run all around to spot a decent place to live in, keep shuttling to office and home, hoping that some day, i wld work on somethng remotely related to the dream job i have imagined. well, doesn't it sound usual?
While i was preoccupied by all these thoughts and finished complaining abt it to every possible frnd of mine, was sitting completely idle to think wat i was expecting. As usual, when we hav nothing much to do, we tend to think philosophically and probably thats wat i am upto now :P
If at all I am good, i must be able to make a difference no matter wat work is given to me( fine, its another matter that thrz no work at all as of now :P) .
Why do we keep praying or expecting things which would make us busier than wat we are now, why do we always want to do "the most difficult job" (in our perspective atleast), why struggle hard to get a job which would just make the struggle harder? And after achieveing all this, keep wondering y we dont have time for ourselves and if this is wat we live for and is that all life has for us?
If these thoughts do stop us at some point of time, suddenly the competitive spirit in us wakes up and forces us to push all these thoughts aside, bcoz, to win in life,we need to achieve wat we want to and hence the struggle for these is must for us to be happy. Atleast as now, we dont know wats gonna come true. But defntly we cant sit back and keep thinking, for, this is not going to take us anywhr.
So, whether we think about all this or not, we eventually do get trapped in this daily run for success and finally may succeed with out knowing whether, thats wat we wanted at the first place!!
Saturday, January 20, 2007
What U decide is What U r
JLT: Just like that
Another of those jargons used, while chatting. Realised the importance of this gradually in the past few months. That’s like the answer for most of the questions that I have now..
Why did u do an MBA.. most of us would have prepared an answer for this which either recites itself each time one is posed a question.. or an answer which is formed dynamically depending on the person u r answering to.. I used both the techniques.. but never actually believed in either.. yes.. at the verge of my course with just about a couple of weeks remaining, I think I did my MBA just like that. J
Now, I also think that the reason for my computer science is .. JLT again. I still remember myself writing my first program after having chosen my computer science engineering wondering wat it was all abt. I never thought of my fit in that field. All I knew was, most of the top rankers aspire for it and I wanted to challenge myself with that course. Happy that, I was real good fit there( or atleast thought so) and enjoyed almost all the electives offered in that course. Excellent profs, awesome classmates, exciting challenges, deadly ideas.. At the end of the day, what matters is whether u enjoyed doing what u choose.. and I did.. But I always wondered if I would say the same things, even if I choose electronics, electrical or for that matter MBBS or any other field. Ended up with a job, which was as normal and boring as all others.. Again thr could have been a gamut of challenges waiting ahead.. but didn’t give it enuf time and jumped over to an MBA.. Why again.. just like that J
History repeats itself.. does it? I didn’t know.. neither did I realise, but its sort of cool to believe :P. Again a choice on my way.. which job? ( not that I would get any job I want, but just to make it sound more dramatic :P) where to start a career in? Fin? IT? Strategy? Consulting? How does one choose? The answer lies in the answer of one of these questions. Try answering these and u would know whr to go. ( This was told by many of my frnds, elders and others whom I asked advice for)
One in which u r good at? One which u njoy doing? Whr do u see urself in five years?
I may think that I am good at more than one or none :P
I njoy most of things I do.. What I see in future depends on which angle I see through :P
With due regards to all those who tried to help me, these questions just confuse me more. I can chose any of these and give a couple of reasons if not a thousand reasons for my choice. But the point is, whatever I choose.. I think I would have done that just like that.
It’s just the start.. many decisions awaiting in my life.. Hope I figure out how a human thought process or atleast my thought process works and how I come to a particular conclusion. Or else, JLT would become my philosophy of life soon.
But then, in all these choices I faced till now, thr was some pattern even in the just like that bit.. which basically is a way of saying that the reason behind doing something is unexplainable or too trivial to reveal. There sure is some base to it and am yet to find that out.
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Words Cant Say it all...
In how many instances do we feel that we have completely said wat we wanted to?
Atleast I say...Not many
There has always been a gap and it remains so..
But as we grow, we learn the articulate way of using words trying to bridge this gap..
knowing little that we may not succeed :)
This though is partly trapped in the lines of a famous song..
"Try as I may.. I can never explain.. wat is thr btw u and me..."
the reality is 'no one can'..
and thus the classic beauty of silence remains....
Knowing all this.. can we afford to stop or for that matter atleast reduce speaking??..
obviously not... as no relationship can grow and remain lively unless we share our feelings..
But wat we can do is.. reduce the deliberate effort of explaining each and every thing in all situations... which may dilute or even kill the delicacy of the moment...
So next time.. my frnd.. if I silently smile..when u give a surprise visit..
when u share ur joy on ur success.. when u share ur njoyment of the pleasant breeze..
when u r disappointed or when u are angry..
please understand, that I do so as I believe that i cant say it all in words..either due to the reasoning given above or due to mere ignorance of the effective use of my language ;)
Atleast I say...Not many
There has always been a gap and it remains so..
But as we grow, we learn the articulate way of using words trying to bridge this gap..
knowing little that we may not succeed :)
This though is partly trapped in the lines of a famous song..
"Try as I may.. I can never explain.. wat is thr btw u and me..."
the reality is 'no one can'..
and thus the classic beauty of silence remains....
Knowing all this.. can we afford to stop or for that matter atleast reduce speaking??..
obviously not... as no relationship can grow and remain lively unless we share our feelings..
But wat we can do is.. reduce the deliberate effort of explaining each and every thing in all situations... which may dilute or even kill the delicacy of the moment...
So next time.. my frnd.. if I silently smile..when u give a surprise visit..
when u share ur joy on ur success.. when u share ur njoyment of the pleasant breeze..
when u r disappointed or when u are angry..
please understand, that I do so as I believe that i cant say it all in words..either due to the reasoning given above or due to mere ignorance of the effective use of my language ;)
Friday, November 25, 2005
Y blog??
Y blog??
I had no clear answer..
and so didnt blog all these days..
but.. can the questions be left unanswered? :)
come on.. i'm just trying to reason out things..
when there are no reasons..
Well.. I did not yet decide what I would write ..
but yes.. I decided what I wouldnt..
I wouldnt bore you with my usual stuff...
of my daily dairy writings..
uff...
Did I say I would bore u with my unusual writings..
probably thats the thought I have rite now..
lets wait & see...
I had no clear answer..
and so didnt blog all these days..
but.. can the questions be left unanswered? :)
come on.. i'm just trying to reason out things..
when there are no reasons..
Well.. I did not yet decide what I would write ..
but yes.. I decided what I wouldnt..
I wouldnt bore you with my usual stuff...
of my daily dairy writings..
uff...
Did I say I would bore u with my unusual writings..
probably thats the thought I have rite now..
lets wait & see...
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